Phase II

With the conclusion of Future’s Vegas bootcamp, Phase I of my progression comes to a close. Week 7 has served as a transitory period, with a rightfully deserved bootcamp break this weekend. I belive I’ll be going home to visit my parents and to see some old friends for what might be the last time in a long time.

Over the past few days, I’ve had a chance to reflect on the past 6 weeks. It’s been quite the experience...

From those that I’ve been fortunate enough to learn from though, I’ve worked with instructors who specialize at all parts of the emotional progressional model (some on attraction, others in comfort), as well as instructors who sexualize on a varying degree of risk/rewards (from more conservative, to large hoops within 10 minutes).

More importantly, I have been exposed to a variety of core beliefs that drive the game of the various instructors. I have met guys who relentlessly pursue deep connection, others who are driven by their deep affinity for sex, and others who are just hopefully in love with girls. I have been exposed to the schools of thought that govern guys who are at the point in their lives where they are just looking for hook-ups, guys who are still working towards the peak of their game, and others still, who have achieved this peak, and are more focused in the other ventures and opportunities life has to offer.

From all this though, I have developed a truly braod and in-depth understanding of what we call Game, both from an inner, outer and core perspective. Moreover, I have taken what has worked and is most congruent for various parts of Game from various instructors. In essence, the tools are there.

That is, I know the mechanics of how to execute any given move, the theory behind why it works, the timing of when to do it, as well as the 3 varying different ways to execute the same act (i.e. sexualization, qualification, teasing etc…). From this, I am able to diagnose 90% of all my sets down to a T, and usually know what I did right, as well as what I did wrong.

So that’s where I stand. What’s next?

I have chunked out Phase II as weeks 7-18 (a 6 week period). In these 6 weeks, my primary focus isn’t necessarily the absorption of new material/theory (there really aren’t too many opportunities left for this), but more so the execution of what is already in my head. At some point, I have done everything up until comfort correctly, albeit not all during the same set, and the focus of these 6 weeks is to start doing it all very consistently. In metaphorical terms, to take my currently blunt and semi-sharp tools, and to sharpen them all up.

What is the key to success these 6 weeks? At it’s core, the key to much success is repetition, repetition, repetition, It’s time to reset the clock, and treat going out and opening sets with the same fervor I would have if I were just starting to embark on this journey. That means, to push myself to go out frequently, and then to take it one step farther, and to open systematically and relentlessly while I’m out.

To be honest, amidst all the travel and extended bootcamps these last two weeks (i.e. bootcamp+breakthrough comfort, or bootcamp+SCM+inner game), I have made it home midweek, needed a day to recover, and as a result, lost my structure and rhythm of going out. Moreover, after transitioning into the AC role at bootcamps, I grew complacent standing behind the guise of pushing someone else into set, and thus the momentum I had of getting myself into as many sets as possible in any given night.

In summary, structure was lost over the last 2 weeks, andthat is the first thing that needs to be reinstated at the start of Phase II.

Things to watch out for? There are two main inner game things that could hold back my progression. Here are their counters.

1.) Future’s Rule #1-3: Rule 1: Accept rejection. Rule 2: Open frequently. Rule 3: Stay in set.

The big one is Rule 1. When I started out Phase I, I slowly developed the mindset that I did not care if I got rejected. Somehow as the phase started to close out, I find myself caring more about rejection, and find it the reason why I’m not opening as amny sets as I should be when I’m going out. I’m running negative thoughts into my head. I need to stop doing that. I have to realize again that rejection is part of it, no matter how good I am, and to remove myself from letting rejection effect me on an emotional level.

Rule 2/3 is more of a function of rule 1. If I close off my motional connection to being rejected, I will undoubetly open more, and from that, staying in set isn’t going to be (and to be honest, isnt’ really now) a big deal. But it’s good to keep in mind that I always need to be opening. Always.

2.) Ego: The “better” I get, the more I need to focus on keeping my ego in check.

This is the second big reason why I haven’t been opening as much as of recent. I would at times reference the great sets I had, and then not want a bad set. Because of the positive experiences I’ve had in a number of sets over the past few weeks, I came to expect that, and didn’t’ want to accept the idea that I could get in a set, and it not work out that way at all. I somehow had developed a bullshit “standard” for myself over the weeks.

This standard is also the reason why over the last couple weeks, I haven’t been approaching as hot of girls as I was doing dring the beginning of Phase I. By focusing my attention on the less hot girls, I was more worried about feeding and validating my ego, instead of being a man and stepping up to the challenge.

I need to realize that I have to keep my ego in check. In order to get truly good, I need to be a student of constant learning… someone who is constantly pushing the barrier; not a weak individual who is feeding on validation and acceptance. Always have to be pushing the barrier, always have to be stepping up to the challenge. Given the timeframe and the level of mastery I want to achieve at this, my ego has no place here, and won’t for a very very very very long while.

Accept the idea that while I’m getting acceptance, I’m still not that good, and need to be pushing relentlessly, like a lifelong student of learning, towards my goal. I need to be like the bootcamp students who open, open, open and do not care if they hook or get blown out (essentially, how I was during my in-field at Mr. M’s Oslo/London booctamps).

Put that ego to rest son.

Guidelines

So the guidelines are this….

- Go out at least 4-6 times a week

- Go out very systematically. Get there, run SCM on the people who work there, then when girls start coming in, open like a machine. Be relentless. Always be in set. Always.

- Plan out the schedule beforehand for each week so that I know which nights I need to be going out, and then coordinating around travel. That is, NOT using travel as an excuse not to be going out and hitting my quota.

- Getting back to be more responsible with consistent blogging. Not saving 4 blogs up for one day and then recalling on past memory to hammer them out.

M, if you’re reading this, I know you mean well but aside from reminding me to always be in set while we’re out, don’t try to help with any of the other guidelines. Even then, if we’re out, maybe mention it once if you see it, and then don’t bring it up for the rest of the night (or even after). If I have your reminder, and I’m still not executing, there’s an inner process that I’m figuring out and/or dealing with. Also, if you can, avoid bringing things up like “dude, you haven’t been out for the past 2 nights… what’s going on?” I’m always keeping track of timing and scheduling internally, and comments like that would just knock me off balance and make me second guess myself, both of which put the efficiency of my progression at risk.