Components of My Game

As part of the effort to make everything more structured and systematic, I started thinking about the current components of my game, and the pattern I’ve fallen into. This is what it typically is:

Opening

Semi-direct:

- “You guys seem cool, are you friendly?”

- “Hey, I’m Andrew”

Direct:

- “You are absolutely fuckin’ gorgeous (I had to come meet you)”

- “You are fucking hot! I had to come meet you”

- “You girls are way too cute, I had to come meet you”

Winging:

- “Hey, have you seen Michelle?”

- “Are you hitting on my boyfriend? I’ve killed for less…”

- “Get your filthy fucking hands off my boyfriend.”

Transitioning

[Want to add short circuit to qualification: “You know, you’ve got to seem less intimidating if you want cute guys to approach you more often”]

Fishing question: “So what are you guys up to?”

Cold read: “You’re not from LA are you…. (you remind me of the girls back home)”

Emergency: “You have an expressive face etc….!” “You’re a nurse….”

“OMG”: “How old are you anyway? You look like you’re 16. No the reason why I ask is because…”

Attraction

Inorganic

Future Projections:

- “We’re going to make a porno and sell it for millions, we’ll be rich! We can split it 60/40. It’ll be awesome, I’ve got a great idea. Two gay guys, two lesbians and a donkey. I can even pay you your cut up front... Do you have change? I’ve only got a 20.”

“Let’s go rob a bank! We’ll go into Wells Fargo, and I’ll hand you a gun, and we’ll just do the damn thing. Then we’ll speed away in my sexy black convertible across the PCH with the cops chasing us. Right when they think they’ve got us cornered, we’ll drive off the cliff into the pacific. But… there’ll be scuba gear in the trunk. Bring some sandwiches though okay? I don’t like celery or tuna.”

- “You mean you’ve never broken into the Chancellor’s house? Well that’s our next mission. We’ll steal equipment from the De Neve janitors and scale the fence…. you go first. Then we’ll go skinny dipping in his pool and christen his hot tub. After that we’ll break in and steal his goblets and famous UCLA gear. We’ll split the profits… 60/40, I’d give you more but then we’d have to get married, and you and I both know it’d never work out. It’d be all fights and make-up sex.”

- “We’re going to Europe. I’ll be driving down the Magaddi freeway in the South of France, you’ll be in your sexy red dress, I’ll be wearing my black leather jacket in my sleek ’67 Mustang, and we’ll be listening to Van Hallen as we throw old records out into the Caspian Sea without a care in the world. Then after a day of badassery we can stop by McDonalds for some chicken nuggets.”

Teases: Starfish girl

Misinterpretation: You know, I’m not usually into black girls, but there’s something about you that I’m oddly attracted to; Are you assuming that just become I’m black? I don’t appreciate that

Self-Deprecation: 2010 is my year, I’m finally going to lose my virginity; I’m actually gay… yeah, I’m trying it out Monday, Wednesday Friday like a party-time gay thing. I’m still not sure though… I mean, I don’t look him in the eyes while I’m sucking his dick, so I’m not really gay right?

Bullshit answers: Where am I from? I’m from Africa, I’m actually here on a spirit walk.

We Can’t Date: It’s too bad we would never get along… all we’d do is fight and fuck; I know how this ends, it’s hot passionate sex for 3 months then I’d break your heart into a million pieces.

Non-verbal: I can’t talk to you anymore (back-turn)

Shocker: Oh... You’re from Kansas? Have you ever played that game… what’s it called.. you guys are really famous for it… it’s not horse shoe… chase a black man with a rope!. No that’s actually not funny, I hate it when people make racist jokes, I have black in my family tree. … One hanging off each branch ;).

State breaks: Skiing or snowboarding? Red or Black? Chocolate or Strawberries?

Lingerie or Pajamas… and have you ever spiked a guys drink? Okay great, we can be friends.

Organic

Conversation Building: I expand conversation through the principle of “giving investment” and giving more investment if the conversation ever lulls. I also build on the trigger words idea of relating and tailoring investment based on the things she’s saying. From this, I can typically keep organic conversation going for at least 15-20 minutes if I need to, m… more than enough time to either get blown out or get things on the right path.

Go to conversation topics: Surfing, skiing, photography, traveling, scuba diving, social dynamics

Humor Techniques:

- Heightening: The core of my humor. A girl says something, I say something that tops it and makes it even more absurd, to get some crazy laughs.

- Yes-anding: I yes-and to build humor (it is innately part of heightening), but I also use it to get out of shit-tests, potential conversation lulls and try to use it as a vehicle to backdoor out of those situations with a little humor

Disqualification: In addition to the inorganic material I find myself slotting in, I also improvise using the following techniques:

- Teasing

- Self-deprecation

- Misrepresentation/Misinterpretation

- Non-verbal Takeaways

- Bullshit Answers

- Ridiculous Statements

- Shockers

(so I guess the ones that I don’t really use are exuberant bragging, we can’t date and verbally breaking rapport… good thing to keep in mind).

Qualification

Small Hoops:

- Are you adventurous?

- Are you spontaneous?

- You’re from ____________, you’ve got to have a personality… what else do you do for fun other than hanging out at a club on a Wednesday night?

- I find it really sexy when girls can ____________________, can you __________________?

Medium Hoops:

- What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done recently?

- What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done recently?

- How’d you get into ________________.

Large Hoops:

- If you could do anything without fear of failure, what would you do?

- If I gave you a million dollars and one thing could be different tomorrow, what would it be?

- If I asked you friends what your 3 best qualities, what would they say?

Soul/Golden Mirror Qualification: The principle of digging, digging, digging, finding the core value and then complimenting it. I suppose golden mirror qualification is slightly different from the qualification I learned from Soul in the sense that I should be looking for something they can achieve, instead of just a personality trait I like, and then saying with authority they can achieve it because of x personality traits.

Force Frame Qualification: You know what I like about you? I like that you’re open-minded and independent. You can actually hold a good conversation with me without looking to your friends for validation. I like that… it shows personality.

Comfort

Inorganic

Cajun’s Questions Game

Organic

- General comfort from having had rapport

- Moving them around the venue

- Building emotional commonalities

[My organic comfort game is probably my weakest area right now and could actually use some work. Realistically though, it’s not entirely necessary to get laid… moving the girl, pulling off Cajun’s questions game, and having solid rapport and emotional commonalities should be enough to get laid. That, and I have the breakthrough comfort knowledge pretty engrained in my head.]

Sexual Hoops / SOIs

Small Hoops: (see attraction material above: Part-time gay, make a porno, starfish girl, fights/make-up sex, losing my virginity, skinny dipping in the chancellor’s pool, sexy red dress)

Medium & Sexual SOIs:

- “You know, I’d love to take you out to dinner, and buy you flowers and what not… but then I’d take you home and fuck the shit out of you.”

- “If you were my girlfriend and wearing that dress, we would fuck like 5 times a day”

- “Do not get alone with me” (girl asks why) “Because I would fuck the shit out of you.”

- “Just to warn you… I am voracious. I am an animal.”

Large Hoops:

- “If all these people weren’t here, I’d bend you over the bar and pound you so hard from behind.”

Emotional SOIs:

- (Pull her in) “You are SO sexy.”

- “You have got to stop looking at me like that, you’re going to make my heart pop out of my chest.”

- “Who are you? I’ve been looking for a girl like you…. Where have you been?”

Physical Escalation

I use the following mechanics:

- Arm/elbow touches

- Taking her hand and swinging it around while talking to them

- Clasping her wrist and softly pulling down while I rock in and talk into her hear

- Going from holding her hand to intertwining my fingers with her

- Putting her arm on my shoulder

- Brushing her hair out of her face

- Going from right ear to left ear, quickly brushing across her face with mine

- Pulling down on her jacket collar

- Putting a finger in each of her jean pockets and pulling her in

- Putting my index fingers in my belt loops and slightly pulling in

- Running my fingers around the small of her back

- Lightly pulling the back of her hair (the roots)

Isolating

- “Hey, give me a tour of this place” (then proceed to make up stories about each area of the venue)

- “Hey, I can’t hear come over here”

- (to her friends) “I’m going to steal you friend for a second, I’ll bring her right back”